So who here has done this? I don’t expect any really good looking women, but as long as I can get it up I am fine with this. I am exploring this partly because I haven’t met any women in awhile, and don’t partake in the bar scene (I haven’t drank in 2 years). Basically, I am somewhat desperate for my next lay, and don’t have enough money to buy another escort for awhile (due to my student budget). Advice? Flames?
Have you tried match.com? There’s something about craiglist that just gives me the creeps. Dance classes are good venues as well. I know what you mean about not partaking in the bar scene. Besides the drinking, the bar scene just sucks for meeting people.
Are you a furry?
WTF? Isn’t craigslist where you buy used washing machines and crap like that?
- [B]MySpace[/B] apparently works for some guys, but I've never tried to meet women there... Wrong demographic. It's free though.
- [B]Match.com[/B] is relatively inexpensive, has a HUGE membership and good tools for your search. I think you can still seach/preview for free. You only pay when you find someone you'd like to communicate with. I met dozens of girls there after my divorce. I still think it's the Gold Standard for dating sites.
- [B]Adult Friend Finder/Passion.com[/B] is pretty much for hooking-up. Smaller database of members, but since you specify exactly what kinda sexual encounter you're looking for [I]right in your profile[/I], it's usually understood that's what everyone is there for. If I recall correctly, the only pic available for preview is a thumbnail. You have to purchase a membership to view more pics as well as communicate. Interface is a little clunky.
- [B]e-Harmony[/B] requires you to jump through a lot of hoops before you can even begin communication. It seems to produce some pretty good matches though. It's among the most expensive of the sites. This is probably not you best bet if you're just looking to score. If you're looking to get married, though...
I’d hit that.
On second read, Eldarbong, you are in college. It should be easy to get some nookie (unless you are in grad school, or in engineering/physics or some nerdy shit like that.)
Oh yeah, adultfriendfinder is good, too. Myspace kinda sucks.
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I didn’t really want to get into this, but, yeah I am in the late tiers of my undergrad… but I am not overly social, and am pretty much all business when at school. The friends I have there, I met outside of school. Again, I am not in the bar/pub-crawling/beer night scene, which has limited my possibilities for social events. The ball-room dancing club is the only (non boozing) thing I can think of that might actually pay dividends.
- Juan
Your answer, then, is to start being social.
This is not the answer, at least for me.
Maybe I’ll just take up TKD or Cardio Kick, I know women love that crap.
Dude, don’t be that guy. That guy shows up to a ballroom dance class once a month, doesn’t pay any attention to what’s being taught, tries to pick up a bunch of chicks who are mostly unavailable, gets shut down, and leaves. Then he shows up sometime next month and does it all over again.
What exactly is the issue with just hanging out and asking some girls out on dates?
Actually being a good musician in a band helps, too. Way more than getting sweaty in pajamas.
But ViciousFlamingo has teh correct.
My problem is that I tend to end up where there’s almost something going then I pussy out and we just become friends…
That and the fact that up until about 2 years ago I was depressed, antisocial, and weird. The reputation sort of stuck, which is kind of like having a sign around your neck saying: PUSSY, STAY AWAY.
I don’t have many female friends (especially available ones), I suck at making friends, I am not good at the many subtle aspects of social interaction… I’m not even 24 and I have already been in AA for 2 years, that’s how bad my addiction issues have been. It has only been recently that I have gotten back into sex/relationships while sober, and to be honest, I am having a fuck of a time. If I could go to pub crawls, beer nights, etc. I would. There are only a few big clubs that regularly function without booze, and the ball room dancing group is one of them.
I have a friend in recovery. He hangs out with drunk chicks and scores all the time. Plus, he’s sober enuff to drive them home and do 'em properly!
If it’s difficult to meet women in normal circumstances, how do you think having to worry about stepping on their feet will help things along?
Look, I’m not saying it’s a bad idea to join the ballroom group or whatnot, but don’t go there trying to pick up chicks. Seriously, it’s really noticeable and you don’t have a chance in hell of succeeding if you have that mindset. If you go, go to have fun and learn to foxtrot and hang out. If you meet a girl, great. If you don’t, at least you know how to dance, and that’s pretty useful for meeting women in other circumstances. “Hey, do you know how to do the cha cha? No? Want to learn?”
Anyways, if you’re on a college campus, how about concerts, performances, ball games, and crap like that? There has to be other social places than booze venues.
Most of the friends I’ve made in high school are through my classes. It’s not like a lecture is a good time to hit on girls, but it’s a good way to just meet people, ya know?
do the ballroom thing and don’t focus on picking up chicks, because your class is going to be swarming with women. take your time and get to know them. then do the playful banter thing with one that catches your interest… and then ask her to hang out after class.
I’d go with the dancing thing if I wasn’t so rhythmically challenged. I see old pudgy guys with hot, fit, young ladies literally lined up waiting because there are so few men. Learn this and I think you are set for life.
Of course, you need to learn to close (ABC = Always Be Closing!). I’d suggest this little gem: “You know…” (pause) “there’s only one thing I like more than dancing…”
Seriously, not all the women will be single, but at least it looks like some fun.
The reason you can’t get laid is because you’re trying to get laid. Sad, but its true. So quit trying to get laid. Women smell desperation like pit bulls smell fear. It’s called a ‘dry spell’. I myself have never had one, but I hear they kinda suck. Or lack sucking. Whatever.
And of course there’s fat chicks. God bless their jiggley hearts. You’d be hard-pressed to find a woman more eager to please her man than a big girl. Seriously, lay of the hookers. Just kick back and enjoy your freedom.
2 words: guitar hero.
see this guy’s skills?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ua3hZXfNZOE
tons of internet wimmen are lining up to have his babies, myself included.
shit… he may end up replacing Mr. _fsa.