so i have just ended the weirdest, saddest, and yet happiest moments of my life. My girl friend of about 9 months and I broke up about a week and a half ago. It was cordial, but one sided, as she broke up with me. We tried to not talk for two weeks, but she called me after two days and we talked for hours. We kept that up, talking like we used to, on occasion me saying how much i missed and still loved her, she would say she loved me to but it wouldnt work, and we would be sad. We finally agreed that we needed to see each other, and that happened today.
It started out with possibly the worlds longest hug, and when we broke it was clear we both wanted to kiss the other, but she said it would be too hard. From that point on we were constantly in physical contact, hugging and cuddling and holding hands, talking about how much we loved and missed the other. However, as you probably gathered from the title, none of this resulting in us being together again. We both had tears in our eyes, but she said she just couldnt do it. I have to at this point say that I know why she can’t. though we are both in college, this is her first long term relationship, and our relationships were complimentary, not compatible, and as such we had the friction that results. I, the serial monogomist, knew that this would be the case, but will admit that it went too far. The night we broke up actually, I had a bad reaction to some steroids I was taking for mono and she was drunk and it just was a scream fest. She is afraid that though we love and miss each other and it will be good for a while, we will fall into this same pattern.
so we spent almost two hours in each others arms, crying and holding each other as tight as we could. We are still going to talk alot and we are still going to see each other in person even though it is hard for us. We both are not ready to date other people, but she wants us too and it probably will happen at some point. Though I am sad that I dont have her as a girl friend, i guess im not so sad because I know that for the most part, im not losing the things that make our relationship special, and we will be great friends in the mean time.
there is really no reason for me to type this, I dont need advice or anything like that. If anything, i just want some of the younger posters to realize that love isn’t necessarily everything, but it is the only thing. If your lucky and find love, but it doesn’t work, dont drive the relationship into the ground. Be smart and let it end, and know that you will hvae a great friend, and hope you dont have to learn to share them anytime soon.