My girlfriend in a past relationship seemed, at least to me, to be somewhat emotionally volatile. Any disagreement would result in her saying “things will never work out, I’m leaving”. (There’s a quick conversation ender.) Eventually, we’d work it out, but this went on dozens of times.
The result, naturally, was that any meaningful dialogue was nearly impossible. Eventually (after waiting far too long) I left. I suppose I could go more into it, but I’d like to keep my emo moments offline, thanks. I’m really more interested in what she said later.
After separating, there was no longer the threat of her leaving and we actually had some meaningful conversations. In explaining the episodes she said, “I talked to a lot of my friends and most women are like this”.
This is a bit at odds with my experience so far, but maybe I just happened to luck into relationships with unusually sweet, balanced and stable women before I met her. In the interest of science, I thought I’d investigate. So, in the most scientific approach possible, I’ll post on Bullshido and see what people say.
So, my question to you bullies and bullettes. Are most women like this?
90% of the girls I’ve dated/fucked/hung-out with (and married…) have been, to me, unreasonable in arguments, quick to anger, slow to forgive and with long memories. However, they also think I’m like that, that I bottle shit up and lose my temper too fast.
Men are from Mars yadda yadda
There is also a distinct possibility that I just date/fuck/hang out with (and marry) fucking lunatics.
Reading this makes me feel like venting. There is a stereotype out there that women are better communicators, and less afraid to talk about their feelings. The idea is that women are more in touch with their emotions.
I think that’s bullshit. Women are more emotional. Men don’t appear as in touch with their emotions because they generally don’t feel them as intensely. Women may communicate more information, but most of it is meaningless details.
Women in a fight within a relationship will say “when you did __ it made me feel ___.” You can try and tell them your intentions or the purpose of what you did all you want but their emotions trump all logic. This is why women are the only ones to ever “win” a fight.
In my experience every woman is slightly different, and threatening to end the relationship every time you have an argument is not common. But some degree of female bullshit is. Despite my experiences, I think most women are not as bad as what I have experienced because I took what I could get.
Most women do the “Oh nothing is wrong” when something is bothering them and rationalize this at the current moment of them saying it as “Oh well it’s no big deal/We’ll deal with it later/Right now isn’t the right time, etc…” and then blow up in your face about it later with shit like “YOU DON’T LISTEN TO ME!!!”.
I tell them straight up, either tell me or stop acting upset, because it’s one or the other. I’m not here to deal with tween high school bullshit.
Also the chick you dated is a retarded bimbo for rationalizing her actions as a “norm”. It’s not that everyone is retarded, she’s just fucking retarded.
Don’t even get me started on the “nothing’s wrong” (but really there is) shit. Luckily my girlfriend of five years doesn’t do that crap, but my last girlfriend pulled that shit all the time. Mixed with the blown out irrational temper tantrum bullshit. Not fun at all!
My ex-wife would go lie facedown on the bed and hide when upset and wait for me to come make her talk. I got more and more tired of that shit and eventaully stopped going after her. And now shes my ex-wife.
I’m almost always wrong about everything so it doesn’t really help to participate in any arguments. It’s just easier to say “I was wrong, I’m so very sorry, now get the fuck away from me and leave me alone until I’ve learned my lesson or supper is ready”
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This is a bit at odds with my experience so far, but maybe I just happened to luck into relationships with unusually sweet, balanced and stable women before I met her. In the interest of science, I thought I’d investigate. So, in the most scientific approach possible, I’ll post on Bullshido and see what people say.
So, my question to you bullies and bullettes. Are most women like this?[/quote]
Only the unmarried ones.
Those that learn to keep their emotions/irrationality/BS/etc in check are the ones who get the wedding proposal.
That’s how the saying, “All the good women/men are taken” comes about.
The problem for me usually arrives with the peak flow of hormones. I think somebody brought this up: if it happens every month, why can’t they be prepared for it? I’m hoping a womanz can answer this for us.
I find that rationalizing your way out of a crazy-ass bitchfest is seldom an option. That’s why the Mrs and I have an agreement. Whenever a fight gets too heated, we stop. Just stop. Drop it until we both calm down. (Considering the arguement is only started when we are trying to solve an issue from opposite ends.)
Admittedly we have a very good line of communication, which in itself is a blessing, but no matter what, we can always pause the fighting to say “I love you,” and realize that the issue isn’t worth the relationship. (Then again, the issues have never been serious enough to effect it.)
Really, why would the relatively few women who post here even post in this thread with its half-dozen twenty-year-old limpdicks going on about the “high school bullshit” of women?
Here’s a thought: often people get out of relationships what they put into them.
I agree with Rivington…however I like science and am working towards that nifty scienctist tag…so…
Leaving, be it the bed, the room, the house, the relationship, is a manipulation tactic, part of the arsinal of women. The degree to what each women is endowed with it…is something I do not know.
(* Once I was sort of dating a women that I kinda liked, but was emotionally detached from. One day during some emotional drama and hormonal peaking…she wanted out of the car. I had manual locks so she was able to undue the seatbelt, and open the door. I stopped quickly. I had to follow her for about a quarter mile before she got her composure enough to get back in.
In her defence she is a highly trained professional Pianist, and the emotional waves help her in her emoting the music during performances.)
[quote=KO’d N DOA;2265810]I agree with Rivington…however I like science and am working towards that nifty scienctist tag…so…
Leaving, be it the bed, the room, the house, the relationship, is a manipulation tactic, part of the arsinal of women. The degree to what each women is endowed with it…is something I do not know.
(* Once I was sort of dating a women that I kinda liked, but was emotionally detached from. One day during some emotional drama and hormonal peaking…she wanted out of the car. I had manual locks so she was able to undue the seatbelt, and open the door. I stopped quickly. I had to follow her for about a quarter mile before she got her composure enough to get back in.
In her defence she is a highly trained professional Pianist, and the emotional waves help her in her emoting the music during performances.)[/quote]So you didn’t just drive to the nearest gas station/diner and grab a bite to eat?
Interesting tactic…
