Come again?
Narcotics aren’t going to help that girl at all, and your friend needs to cut out the pot with her.
Pot’s not going to help her develope emotionally at all or have what it takes to not tremble in fear everytime the mailman comes to the door. Fucked up situation all the way around.
I don’t think there’s a damn thing I can do to give productive advice. If you’re tired of dealing with it, just tell him you don’t know what to say if he brings it up.
I see where you’re coming from now polish, and I agree to a certain extent, if only because stoners are the most boring people on fucking earth.
I mean I’m not against the pacololo, it’s just that every day is kind of overdoing it.
Here is the full deal - this friend has been dating this girl who has extreme problems even talking to her own mother sometimes, extreme terror in the face of anyone other then parents and him. She takes drugs for it a lot, more then she ever needed, and got addicted, but is trying to get off them and trying to “work it out” with classes and other things. For background, she was raised on a farm, only kid and never knew people, and was home schooled because she freaked out in kindergarten and took drugs ever since. I have no idea how they logically got together, but it must have been some kind of miracle. They work together well sometimes, but this issue mucks it up a LOT. they argue about it all the damn time.
When they get together, they toke Weed all the time, and drunk, and fuck. All my friend does now if smoke and drink and party, and does not actually work towards fixing the problem at all. Now, every time there is a situation with the girl, my friend calls me and drags out all of the counseling skill i have. Sadly, counseling a friend or relative is practically impossible, in most situations and with most styles. Whenever i talk to him online, it starts with “guess what happened to US today” and then its “WAHHHH!!! my girl cant see anyone else cause she gets scared, help me help me! WAHHHH! She “did this embarrassing this thing today”!!!”
This situation has already reached my family, because my mother invited the girl over, and it didn’t happen. The girl lies out of every situation that involves meeting people, which i don’t blame her for, but it is kind of rude when you KNOW she knows you know her problem.
now, my friend does these stupid things to start convos about his girl, even after he was told not to talk about her to me because i did not like it and it was pissing me off.
the thing that set me off this time was when he started typing out a song over aim… about “the city boy and the country girl in love” after have told him to not talk about it anymore a few days ago. i cursed him out, and logged off.
i am fucking confused.
What this guy said, doubled. And since you do worry about your friend (hence all the bitchin’) think about this and maybe point this out to him–
They’re doing their usual thing one fine day, when she REALLY freaks, what we medical wankers call a “complete psychotic break”, your friend can’t fix it, the pot can’t fix it. The screaming becomes a problem, the neighbors call the cops, ambulances, etc… Now maybe she can’t even talk, or maybe she’s screaming at your bud-- but HE’S trying to tell the cops ‘oh its okay, she’s like this’, and they both reek o’ the chronic. Ugly situation.
Do what you’re doing- back off and keep yourself sane, so you can be there for your pal when the smashup comes. Because it is coming.
MAYBE, just maybe, if he could find a real, reputable hypnotherapist-- and I hesitate to mention this because there are LOTS of quacks and a quack will make it worse-- but maybe a good HT could get see just what the big blockage is. Because at the root of this problem is probably some major psychological trauma.
People with Asperger’s syndrome can be very wierd, but it isn’t her fault and should not be hated on for it. That is all.
Sound like she just fucked up on pot, only wanting to meet other potheads that she can relate too. Outside straight worlds a scary place for a pothead, especially if she’s a paranoid pothead.
A LOT of people who have legit psychological problems, from mild depression to far freakin’ psychosis, never get any diagnosis or mental health assist in our Benign Capitalist System. They frequently end up “self-medicating” with anything and everything that alters their mood and might seem to help them feel better, however transiently.
Alcohol is of course the big number one; but cannibis because it is available, cheap, and just mildly dampens down all sorts of symptoms, is something a lot of people with mental health issues end up using.
None of us (to my knowledge) are Psychs, and no one can diagnose at a distance, so its all just speculation; you just deal with the behavior you are presented with, and your friend too.
It MIGHT be useful, however, to understand that if is just pot & drugs, more isn’t going to make things any better. AND if it is mental illness, the self-medicating with pot & etc. aren’t really going to cure anything, and one day it might get worse. So your friend should understand this and be prepared.
Of course, he should get her to counselling or a psych., no substitute. AND the Psych needs to know just how much pot and other stuff she’s using-- that affects things and some of them are pretty narrow. You can’t take it for granted the Doc will figure it out.
the worst thing is that they were going to a doctor, who took two weeks of “research” to find out she was “possibly as Aspergers kid”, the give me $1000 for the test. it is obviously the biggest crock of bullshit in the world, Asperger’s is the “new ADHD” that a doc will slap on a kid that he/she sees a potential sucker in. it happened all over in the 80’s and 90’s and its happening again for $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
That kind of bullshit and lies made me tell him to get the fuck out of there, since i do specialize in mental health, just not when its a friend or a family member.
Ultimately i do not believe in moralistic judgments such as “autism or aspergers”, so it is even hard for me to classify her as that, since i only did it because thats the easiest way to tell someone else the symptoms over a internet forum board… actually i dont even know why i posted this shit, you guys really cant help me either, i have to help myself.
im still really fucking confused.
ironically, i have fixed this exact same problem with countless other people, i just can not figure it out with my heart all attached and shit.
FUCK!
PS- this girl never drank or did drugs, or even LEAVE THE FARM before she met my friend.
See! Thats what i wanted to hear.
Do not curse in thread title.
Normally a one day ban, if you change it again, ban.
K, i did not know. How about you you change the “S word” to “crazy” for me?
I don’t give a fuck if you curse in the thread, but the title is off limits. It’s a search engine thing.
then change the THREAD title for me? just for karma’s sake? MOD power, activate!
In my meaningless opinion? Use your position as a friend to have an intervention, there is obviously shit that needs to be worked through, and drugs are getting in the way. You need to get a lot of people on side and get real help. Now tell my why in wrong (not sarcasm I know shit about this)
Intervention is not a bad idea, but your friend has to be “ready”; which IMO means to the point of kinda getting burnt out on her and ready to listen to reason. If he’s still too into the pussy, OR still thinking he’s really going to “save” her, or “help” her or some shit like that he’ll just tell family and friends to STFU.
In a way its harder to reach the friend (co-facilitator) of someone whos really messed up, because they are still convinced they DON’T have any problem, they’re helping the person with the problem which is why they HAVE to stay with them. Didn’t you say that your pal already says “you don’t understand” too effing much?
But sooner or later, what you’re trying to do is an intervention. Does he have other good friends or family that you can line up?
The biggest problem is your friend is a loser. Only a loser who is fucked up himself would stick with a girl like that.
Let me guess, he doesn’t really get many girls and this is the first steady piece of ass that has stuck around, and she is probably more attractive than other girls he has been with.
I would find a new friend that isn’t as lame.
remind me never to be one of greeses friends. shit dude we all do dumb things for the pussy, abandoning your mate is a bit of a hard line.
Wow. You lose at friendship.
People with Asperger’s rock because they make great detectives.
