Dear god even I don’t do the wallet chain and backwards cap thing anymore… should I feel old???
Anyway, talk to your friend, verbally abuse the annoying cunt of a girlfriend and then just let shit happen. Also I do get the odd feeling you might be a total douche but I’m gonna ignore it and hope I’m wrong.
You’re approaching 30 - that’s when the shit starts to get weird. Friendships alter, communication becomes more difficult, and people you felt close to make decisions you don’t understand. People peel off in different directions.
Don’t worry, though, things are not going to go suddenly boring overnight. Just as the hedonism and free love of the 60s really took place in the 70s, many people’s early 30s are in fact the most debauched and libertine of their life.
Do stop wearing a silly fucking cap, however.
Why not try being honest without being overly aggressive; if your friends girlfriend interjects disparaging remarks into your conversation openly address the issues that she raises from your perspective.
Ensure that your response and any ensuing conversation includes both your friend and his other half and try to listen to their responses.
I genuinely believe that relationships that rely on a tissue of pleasant untruths and secret butt hurtedness are not worth having.
If the shit hits the fan due to your honesty at least your integrity is intact and you know that you have treated your friend how you would expect and hope to be treated.
I hope this helps.
Punch her in the tit.
Thank you all, again.
So, may I sum up the different suggestions, in order to make a poll.
Quietly bow out, and ride towards sunset before my pals notice that I am gone.
Confront her in a polite manner, Moulin Rouge style: Sing and dance, chit and chat.
Confront her in an impolite manner, V for Vendetta style: Daggers and self-made grenades.
Rafe sucks.
After thinking things through to a certain point, I believe, with respect to what all the others have said, I tend to share BVDD’s opinion the most.
Those pals are my friends more through routine than through real matching points. We share almost nothing any more, and if they want to lead conservative lifes, it’s not mine to criticize them.
So, I’ll simply hang out less with them, until the situation changes.
Anyway, that might be better on the long hand. All my friends are firestarters, and there will be come the time when they want to want to ignite again.
Explain that you have to wear baggy pants because you poop yourself whenever you sound out the p-consonant. Then say, “Whoops, that’s three right there.” Then “Make that four.”
Ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner. :laughing6:laughing6:laughing6
That really lightened me up, thanks a lot!!!
My sphincter counted four in the initial statement.
… make that five?
[quote=ZenOfAnger;2162854]… make that five?[/quote]As a total, yes.
YAY!!! I can count to five. :binkybaby
As far as I can see bowing out is your best option, as sad as it is. If she nitpicks you in the mean time inform her that you enjoy the life you lead, do not believe in class warfare [seriously, she’s pulling a ‘you’re such a plebeian’ on you? Fuck that!], your body is far more healthy than hers, all of her friends, anyone she probably knows, or even your friend’s because of your hobbies, and the medical and lifestyle benefits of gymming and martialism far outweigh any negative. That should shut her up, although it could lead to a fight. Take your friend aside next time you get a chance and tell him you can’t be around his girlfriend, but still want to see him, due to her constant negativity, and maybe he’ll stop taking her to your meetings, or he’ll just be a dick and call you a traitor or something. Then again if that’s the kind of person he is you don’t want or need him.
Actually, maybe just say nothing and politely turn down invites from him. I don’t doubt that he holds similar opinions of your lifestyle now that he’s with her, and if he doesn’t then he certianly doesn’t object to her criticisms. Maybe he’ll get the message, and give him a call when he and she break up [if they do].
What is all this weak compromising advice?! It’s Armbar Month! Train it before meeting up, armbar the girlfriend, and celebrate afterwards. If the friend doesn’t like it, you armbar him for being a weak vagina-slave. Then you drink whatever alcohol is available (don’t pay for it, of course), and flying sidekick your way out of the room.
Once you’ve made it outside, run. Just run, and never stop. Run to Grafenwoehr (sp?), hijack a tank, and drive it back to the girlfriend. At this point she should just be regaining the use of her arm. Drive that tank into the room with you standing on top, wearing nothing but a wallet chain and backwards cap, and scream:
THIS IS SPAAAARRRRTTTTAAAAAA!!!
She should be sufficiently scared, but to make sure she knows you mean business, flying armbar her (remember to let your free-hanging testicles drape over her arm, to ensure that she sees them in all of their mantastic glory).
…what?
In OP’s situation I’d probably get into a pretty big argument. It’s not hard to push my buttons, so maybe not go with my ‘beat her down verbally’ advice.
Less Bitch more Kicks!
Zoidberg wins.
[quote=vile_zoidberg;2163027]What is all this weak compromising advice?! It’s Armbar Month! Train it before meeting up, armbar the girlfriend, and celebrate afterwards. If the friend doesn’t like it, you armbar him for being a weak vagina-slave. Then you drink whatever alcohol is available (don’t pay for it, of course), and flying sidekick your way out of the room.
Once you’ve made it outside, run. Just run, and never stop. Run to Grafenwoehr (sp?), hijack a tank, and drive it back to the girlfriend. At this point she should just be regaining the use of her arm. Drive that tank into the room with you standing on top, wearing nothing but a wallet chain and backwards cap, and scream:
THIS IS SPAAAARRRRTTTTAAAAAA!!!
She should be sufficiently scared, but to make sure she knows you mean business, flying armbar her (remember to let your free-hanging testicles drape over her arm, to ensure that she sees them in all of their mantastic glory).
…what?[/quote]
Okay, it has finally happened.
I think we need a tool to give more than just +rep to a poster.
This is epic.
Qualifies for the “Best Poster Ever”-Tag. Mods?
I’ll dedicate the next happy-themed short story I write, man.
[quote=socratic;2163004]
Actually, maybe just say nothing and politely turn down invites from him. I don’t doubt that he holds similar opinions of your lifestyle now that he’s with her, and if he doesn’t then he certianly doesn’t object to her criticisms. Maybe he’ll get the message, and give him a call when he and she break up [if they do].[/quote]
Thanks a lot.
I guess this is what I will end up doing, because I feel things are more based in a certain elitist behavior some of my old pals are developing.
Quite a shame, but that’s how life goes sometimes. I feel like many of my generation seem to develop somewhat like a paranoid individualism at my age, which leads to very gut-based decission-making and to patterns of behavior I would usually expect from teenagers.
Also, as socratic said, I am, too, not the nicest person to have an arguement with. - One benefit of our common hobbies here at BS is that one (or at least I) learns to mask one’s emotions pretty well. I usually appear pretty calm and laid back, which many people seem to mistake for clumsiness, and when I am angry enough to speak, I am usually pretty cold and maybe also somewhat frightening. :read: You know, like Fedor, just lacking ALL his other skills.
It’s less paranoid individualism perhaps as pressure to conform. “We’re both working in an upper-class job 9-5, don’t go out at night, don’t drink too much, etc, we’re the ‘in people’ that everyone knows and loves” etc etc
People’s goals change as they age, and they tend to associate with people whose lives are similar to theirs. This is understandable and normal; I wouldn’t assume it’s “paranoid individualism” or “pressure to conform.”
It could be that TIS’s friend has or wants a life different from his, and has found a partner that wants the same kind of life. When we’re young we think we’ll be close friends with the same people forever, but that sort of friendship is special and rare. Sometimes friends exit our lives completely, and sometimes they remain friends but the relationship becomes less close.
It’s unfortunate that this particular girlfriend has a bad attitude, but people grow apart sometimes, and it doesn’t mean they’ve made bad choices.