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If I may give another suggestion from my college experience:

I needed, like most, to work in college. Yes I had all the crap-jobs as everyone else, however one crap-job had great side benefits:

Working at the Univeristy Copy Shop and Ticket office. Apart from the manager, I was the only male. Not only was my supervisor a cute little Sororiety gal that I could flirt with by telling her how vapid Sororiety girls are, but not a minute went by without having a co-ed in need stand before me. I worked during the copy hour specials where the copies were one-cent cheaper then normal, so I was generally busier.

The ticket office sold tickets for all the sporting events and University activities as well as concerts across the state. It was how I scored 2nd row seats for U2.

As I said, note copying was a big trade in school, as was flyers for selling things, ride sharing, tutors or study-partners, article copying, course suppliments roomate seeking and,the ubiquitous Frat/Sororiety Party.

As you are standing there copying you always have downtime that you fill with chit-chat. Yeah, some aren’t into it, but most are and you can score invites to parties or phone numbers. Plus, during the downtime, you can do your homework.

There were always young ladies (and the occasional annoying dude) wanting to copy chapters out of books. If it was a guy, I would cite Copyright laws and tell him to go copy it himself. For a young lady, I would cite Copyright laws and tell her…I shouldn’t do this…but for you…and then chat them up while doing it.

Get a job at the Uni where you will have to deal with people…it’s like getting thrown out into sparring when you aren’t ready.

Aardvarks got the right idea. Another way to do this is get to go to copy shops, bookstores, cafes, wherever, checking out the hotties.

Take it from me, anti-social, fat , dorky, and I always had fine girlfriends. This is how it works:

You walk into a cafe, spot the cute chicks. Look them in the eye. Whichever one looks at you for only one second, forget em. They dont find you physically attractive, too much work. Now, the one that looks at you for ONE AND A HALF seconds, shes yours. She belongs to you, heart and soul. Thats right, .5 seconds. That means she find you attractive. Now you have to talk to her, briefly.

It does not matter what you say, because you will say something stupid. You know this, and SHE knows this. But it doesnt matter, BECAUSE SHE LOOKED AT YOU FOR .5 SECONDS TOO LONG! Thats were she fucked up. You own this bitch, you damn pimp! (tell yourself this)

Tip well, leave, come back next day. Blah blah, tip, repeat. “hey, wanna hang out?” “Gee, no…” “oh OK”. Blah blah tip repeat twice more.

If she says no the second time, forget her. Besides, youve been hitting video stores, restaurants, all over town. So what do you care? Simply say “M.O.B., MONEY OVER BITCHES, HO!” and throw a powdered crossant at her. (come on, just once).

This is the reason I got girls. Confidence. Not good looks, education, money, I had none of these. Confidence. And the ability to make a girl laugh. What did one bee say to the other bee? Boo-bee. I dont know why, girls love that joke. I pass it on to you, player…

what switchblade isnt telling us is that these girls looked like this-

Ooh-la-la!

Honestly, I basically want to have a somewhat healthy life with relationships that aren’t destructive. Before I got sober, I was one of the guys who was shy when sober, but when I was smashed/fucked on blow etc the alternate personality came out, and that was when I felt I was at my best. I could talk to girls much easier, and this was the only time I ever had sex or was physical with a girl. I want to change the thinking/actions so that I can be emotionally intimate with a girl, sober, so that I can then have postive sexual relationships that are not based on drugs and booze(or worse). Am I aiming too high here?

I think taking salsa lessons like someone suggested, or joining the ballroom dancing club would be good (it for nothing else than it being something good to learn). I am not in a rush to be in a relationship, but I am not sure if escorts or sex with strangers will help me either. I honestly don’t know what a healthy relationship is like, or what I would get from it.

Yeah, just do something social. It’ll get you back into the swing of being a normal person, and be friendly to your classmates. Even if you don’t get laid you’ll socially be wayyyy better off.

But that alternate personality is “in there” anyway. Once you get over the initial nervousness/awkwardness/whatever being social becomes easy. Just don’t be afraid of failure. It’s your best teacher in this case, so get used to it. Plus failing to screw a girl can lead to longer-lasting and healthier friendships anyway, at least in my case.

I’ve dated only one woman from craiglist who actually ended up becoming my lawyer and longtime friend/fuck buddy. We’ve been dating and doing whatever we call what we do for about 2 years now.

Odd place.

She’s older than me, 33, and has pretty much given up on getting married, so she’s content to just have a boy-toy and not be absolutely lonely. Sucks because she’s still hot but being a lawyer was her parent’s dream, not hers, so she has that bitter attitude.

I know how you feel. People here are right. Meet new people, be social. Even if it isn’t with girls, you will meet girls.

Once you meet the girls I think it is important (especially when young) not to act too interested. This is a typical warning sign for a girl that she’s “out of your league”.
I don’t know why, but a lot of young girls have this thing where they go nuts for guys, who they think don’t like them.

Like, oh he doesn’t like me…how can I get him to like me?..

And there’s the answer to the million dollar question. How do all these asshole guys get laid all the time.

Heffy…women who like pussies are called “lesbians” and they ARE awesome but not your target audience.

Uh…pardon?

It’s part one of the answer to your questions. . . along with part 2, “Are they REALLY assholes or are you just mad at them for getting laid?”

Both I guess.
I think a big part of it is that I feel like I have to act like an asshole to get laid, which is what bothers me more than anything.
I don’t really care if or how other people get laid.
Well unless it’s really fucked. Like fucking a horse, or a dead girl, or a dead horse.

Maybe I’m wrong.

How old are you Johnnycache, and are you married or in a relationship?

dont confuse confidence with being an asshole. rookie mistake.

And vice-versa.

27 and happily dating w/o any commitments atm

Why do you think you have to act “like an asshole” to get laid?

IE what “asshole” behavior are you referring too?

So who here fucks escorts/hookers?

i’ve paid 5 bucks to watch my friend fuck one.

that’s the closest i ever got to “hooker action.”

C’mon johnny, not every guy is as nice as you are… :new_llyin

Back on topic…
So who here fucks escorts/hookers?