i would let them do a submission on me so i dont look as bad
[quote=Bustardo;2113823]It happens to everyone. Although I’ve lost 35 lbs and I find I have so much more energy it’s sick.
When I had my blue belt and was 300 lbs I tapped from exhaustion from rolling with a 180 lbs guy. He was obviously more skilled than I was and I was on the defense the whole time. He couldn’t finish me with a sub, but I got tired and quit. I felt like a compete puss till I looked at the clock afterward and realized we’d been going pretty hard for over 20 minutes. Running with a small guy that long is extremely tiring.[/quote]
I’ll keep this in mind next time we roll. 
Jk.
Tapping due to exhaustion is nothing to be ashamed of. We all have to work the next day.
Don’t worry about it too much, but instead, just work on your cardio a bit more. It’ll get there, trust me.
Quite literally almost exactly one hour ago (8:55pm EST) I basically tapped from exhaustion. Though, I think it is really frustration that is the big problem and exhaustion becomes a byproduct of that.
Last 10 minutes of class. Been rolling 5 minute rounds for 25 minutes. Literally walking off the mat to leave me and a buddy say let’s roll one more time. We train together often as we are close in size (him 260lbs me 223lbs.).
We start in my guard, stay there for several minutes as I fail with submission attempts and sweeps, he finally passes after I miss a sweep and ends up in side control. Like a douchebag I try to muscle the shit out of him once I get an under-hook and of course fail miserably (not that muscling is ever a good idea, but I’ve recently lost 15 pounds and apparently a shit load of strength too).
So, he’s got me in side control and I am turning into him trying to get up to my knees, and basically feel like I’m trying to turn over a truck. At this point I look over to the timer and see that we have like 30 seconds left and while I’m I wasn’t dying and certainly could have toughed it out I was like tap tap tap fuck that I’m done. I was dead. End of class end of rolling. I had fucked up so many times by then I figured I should just get the fuck off the mat and go home think about the stupid shit I did (or at least that’s what my dad would have told me when I was a kid, and he was right).
So yeah. I’m glad to hear it is not uncommon. It is the first time I’ve done it since getting a blue belt (1+ year ago)…not like that should really matter…though it is a measure of progress that is hard to not use.
Anyway…the moral of the story is I suck. BJJ is frustrating and there are times I leave the mat feeling raped. Good night.
man up and accept your loss. you have to accept that you’re not an unbeatable action hero from a movie. they don’t exist.
the person you should really be trying to beat is yourself. mentally reward yourself when you learn something new and can apply it, when you get fitter and stronger, when you beat people you couldn’t beat before. focus on improving. compare yourself to how you were 6 months ago, 1 year ago, 2 years ago. this way, not matter how good you are, you’ll be motivated to be better.
and the fact is, you’ll be getting your arse kicked for the rest of your life at training, no matter how good you get. if this stops happening, i suggest you find somewhere it does and train there instead.
btw, in my first year of BJJ i tapped due to fatigue a couple of times as well.
Tapping to exhaustion is lame. If you’re that tired, they’ll soon be submitting you anyways. Aside from you simply being a quitter, its also a sign that you’re impatient and your technique is poor. You want to reduce energy use as much as possible.
how long you been training, max?
Four years or so.
Max never gets tired because he gets tapped too quickly.
I must suck because I’m unfriendly.
forgotten what it’s like to be a noob?
early on, it’s hard to know your limits and how you should behave in that situation. it’s something you get better at over time. i don’t think it’s wise to tell a white belt that they were weak and foolish to give up. instead i’d say that the feeling is natural, you’re t3h n00b, and you’ll overcome it eventually.
Why make an excuse for it? Being a beginner doesn’t mean lacking heart. Thats the one thing that you can control at that level. Even when I started losing major organs, I finished the rounds and the class, apologized to my partner for dying on him, went home and collapsed in a pool of blood before spending two days in the ER and a couple more in the hospital. Thats my mentality right now. I decided long ago that the desire to quit is a character flaw to be treated like any other. I don’t tolerate it in myself.
i’m not making excuses for anyone - the reality is that some people are going to feel damn uncomfortable at first and may want to end it before the time is up. my point is that they can work on it.
before reading this post any further, understand that you really sound to me like someone i’d like to train with. i actually like your attitude. i just don’t think you can apply it to everyone else.
YOU’RE FUCKING SHITTING ME. you expect people end up at hospital rather than tap out from exhaustion?
i bet you also chop off your balls and die every day.
up to a point, yes. i admire that. it’s something that everyone should try to cultivate to some level through their training. i know i do.
though unless it’s a life or death situation (i.e. training) i don’t see the point in killing yourself just to pretend that you’re HE-MAN.
I once tapped out to side control because the guy outweighed me by 40-50kg.
Yeah man, fuck those pussies!!!
I wish i was hardcore like you. I frequently have to cut class short so i can complete my homework and projects, or go to work. I wish i could put something I PAY to do, over things that will directly help me increase my happiness and standard of living.
You’re a rare breed, sir.
[quote=danno;2123719]man up and accept your loss. you have to accept that you’re not an unbeatable action hero from a movie. they don’t exist.
the person you should really be trying to beat is yourself. mentally reward yourself when you learn something new and can apply it, when you get fitter and stronger, when you beat people you couldn’t beat before. focus on improving. compare yourself to how you were 6 months ago, 1 year ago, 2 years ago. this way, not matter how good you are, you’ll be motivated to be better.
and the fact is, you’ll be getting your arse kicked for the rest of your life at training, no matter how good you get. if this stops happening, i suggest you find somewhere it does and train there instead.
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Oh I don’t disagree at all. I am very motivated and train my ass off. As frustrating as it can be I love it. Last night I trained for two hours and gassed as the end of class and decided to call it a night. Although I could make a bunch of excuses (just got over being sick and not training for a week, down 15 pounds, yada yada yada), I tap more than Sammy Davis Jr. and have no issues at all w/ that. I learn so much more from getting tapped than I do from getting a submission. Anyway, I still feel like it was a really good class and that I learned a lot.
I apologize to the jiu jitsu Gods for not rolling until organ failure. I hate disappointing them.
No point in risking damaging yourself in a misplaced attempt to look tough. Do remember, however, that surviving when you’re gassed to fuck is part of Jiu Jitsu as well.
Especially don’t make a habit of it and become that guy who goes all out for two minutes and then has to quite before his opponent gets a chance to work. That’s really fucking annoying.
Absolutely agreed. I’m definitely not that guy.
Honestly if it wasn’t for last night I probably would have responded to this thread and said that I haven’t haven’t tapped from exhaustion/frustration since I was a noob white belt.
Last night was brutal for me for some reason. Ever just have one of those nights?
You seem to be confusing being tough with stupidity. I have a never say die attitude myself, but I try to curb it when it threatens my life.
You’re not hardcore enough clearly. You need to get your shoulder dislocated a few times then you’ll know The Heart of a True Warrior, girlyboy quitter! You might not be able to pick up your kids from then on, but YOU’LL HAVE HEART. Also, quit work.
Learning you need to work on your cardio is better to find out during a tough class then in competition, or in real life.
Coming online and addimitting it takes more “heart” than coming online and acting like Rambo. To the OP: Congrads on a lesson learned.
*Leaves...to start wind sprints*