Damn. I wasted a perfectly good witty comeback.
Thanks mate.
Congratulations, dude! That was an impressive way of doing it, real old school as you said 
Marriage doesn’t have any effects to your lifestyle beyond what living together (I presume) does. It just makes your relationship, well, official in law if you’re not that religious.
Kids are what finally takes away everything that was left of your own bachelor lifestyle
Great news DM!
Please post details of time and place so all bullshido members can show up for free booze. We’ll wear our gis so you can recognise us.
He mentioned a mini TD, why not then?
Congrats, DM!
Good for you. Congrats.
First of all congrats and may you and the fiance have a great and happy union.
Since you wanted opinion’s of us bachelor’s i’ll throw my 2 cents in the mix. I am currently unmarried, in a great relationship with a wonderful woman, but frankly marriage worries me. For reference i’m 29 going on 30. this next part may seem like i’m anti-marriage but i’m really not
So many of my friends and acquaintances have gone through messy divorces that i guess i’m just a bit jaded. I also have a substantial amount of capital that i’d rather not lose in a messy divorce (yes i know that’s what pre-nups are for). I’d like to believe that if i got married that i wouldn’t get divorced but… i think everyone believes that going in.
I don’t know… can someone explain to me why getting married is necessary (in a monogamous relationship) beyond a piece of paper that makes being together legitimate? Is it just so it’s harder to break up? I would wager that being married doesn’t decrease the chance of cheating.
Also lets take out the emotional side of the equation and consider the ridiculous divorce rate and how the man usually gets the shaft in divorce proceedings what really is the benefit? Is it just because that’s what society expects and it’s the norm?
Sorry, wasn’t trying to rain on your parade Deadmeat congrats once again and i wish you the best.
Deadmeat, I know you and I don’t exactly know each other (I’m kinda newish), but seriously, I wish you and your partner all the best for the future. I think what you did was probably the best thing ever in terms of proposals. Everyone dreams of an old-schools proposal, even if they won’t admit it.
As for my opinion of marriage? My parents got married. I’ll get married, when I find the right girl and the right time. I think even though it’s superfluous, as a ceremony and a symbol, it’s just far too beautiful to deny oneself. As for what I’m doing now, I’m single, and I suck at fixing it. Though before anyone says it, yes, I had a girlfriend before. I’m not quite that nerdy/loser-y.
Edit: Renn- there’s all kinds of little economic perks, I’m told. Aside from the whole ‘joint account’ thing, I’m of the impression there’s tax-breaks and what not. I could be wrong- but basically, there’s a reason people go for ‘de facto’ status if they haven’t married- there’s benefits to be had.
As for emotional reasons, a metal band tends to remind people that they’ve got their baby in their corner, and that’s the best damn feeling in the world.
Congrats, mate!
I’m approaching 14 years married and it’s the best thing I ever did.
[serious face]Think of it as a partnership based on compromise and respect and you’ll not go too far wrong, in my opinion.[/seriousface]
Good luck, and have a long and happy life together.
That’s the spirit mate. Don’t think of it as a lie, merely an economy of truth.
–Dave
tax breaks
That’s down right cynical of you !
To be honest, I think the bachelor lifestyle is overrated, but that’s just me. There’s something reassuring about knowing that you are going to share your future with someone who knows you better than anyone else does or will. Thanks for the well wishes 
lol. I like it. I’ll have to get back to you on that.
Thanks mate. For reference I’m going on 26 in September, and my fiancee is turning 24 in April.
I see where you are coming from, and forgive me if this seems to be prying but are your parents still together?
Personally I was raised in a very strict family. My parents both strongly believe that marriage isn’t necessary, but that if you do enter into it, it’s a serious commitment. They’ve been married for over 25 years, and are still very happy.
AS far as the emotional side of things goes, I feel that there is a significance in formalising your relationship by getting married (albeit a largely symbolic one). And while I do agree that if someone is going to cheat being married is unlikely to change that, I feel there’s a reason why the stigma attached to infidelity is worse when one of the parties involved is married. And in fairness, there is obviously a degree of social expectation I guess, not to mention the fact that I get along with her family well enough for them to accept me as one of them.
Fortunately, from a financial perspective, neither she nor I have much to worry about in that regard. We are both financially independant to a comfortable degree.
Whilst I am aware of the disturbingly high divorce rate, we both have a similar opinion about marriage, and both come from fairly traditional upbringings.
I know that countles sothers have said the same thing, and with often horrendous outcomes, but trust is a part of being in love. I trust my fiancee implicitly and she trusts me to the same degree. I know that makes each of us vulnerable, but I can’t express how good it is to be completely and totally open with someone, and have them reciprocate.
Thanks mate. I appreciate the sentiment. You’re an aussie too aren’t you?
Funny you should say that. I was the lead guitarist in a metal band when I first met her.
Thanks Sochin. I couldn’t agree more. As long as the compromising is mutual, everybody wins, IMO.
That’s down right cynical of you ![/quote] More pragmatic than cynical I’d say. It’s true.
hah.
im not sure what it is, but ive always wanted to get married before i have kids. probably because a mate of mine has parents who are partners but not married and he was teased mercilessly about being a bastard during high school. the way things are going i might end up married within the next couple of years, which is a scary thought. not as scary as the idea of little versions of me running around though.
Yeah make sure you buy 'em all shirts mate ;p
ACT.
Funny you should say that. I was the lead guitarist in a metal band when I first met her.
So your fiance digs metal? Oh man, kickass!
Not quite. She actually likes stuff like the Ramones and the Misfits but I figure that’s acceptable considering I lean heavily towards the oldschool metal and rock myself. She plays a little guitar and can appreciate the odd bit of lead guitar work. She does think Yngwie Malmsteen and Micheal Angelo Batio are a bit over the top though. Can’t say I blame her really.
I got married to my high school sweet heart when I turned 19. Thirty six years later and it’s still great. I’m not bragging, I’m just saying that sometimes it works out. Congratulations, good luck, and best wishes.
Marriage was the best time of my life. Bachelorhood is overrated.
Ya done good, kid.
now go make babies and teach them judo.
Vid or it never happened.
Only if all your housechores are done, she hasn’t thought of any new housechores, there is nothing for the house she wants you to go shopping with her, there is nothing she just bought for the house you need to assemble and/or install and sob you just don’t want to spend time with her anymore!!!
~Congrats!~