[QUOTE=The Question;2704551]LOL. I mean I’m interested in them. Not that they overwhelm me. I think “perhaps I would like to fuck that”, not “Oh, shit, I gotta get all up in that”. Other that than T & A, they just not interesting.[/QUOTE]
Lol really that’s two ways to say the same thing, one is just more polite. and maybe you should find a girl who IS interesting?
It sounds like you guys are pretty much glorified fuckbuddies. You go through the motions of relationship stuff, but you’re really just in it for sex, and anything other than that is just filling the void.
No, what you want is a glorified friends with benefits. The type of girl who shares your passion for anime porn and whatever other hobbies I’m sure you also possess but just choose not to speak of. Someone who will say to you “now that we’re done fucking, want to queue up some La Blue Girl?”
Maybe you should post a personal ad on 4chan. I hear they love that shit over there.
M Let’s be friends…
If the guy is saying it then it’s merely a consolation prize that’s thrown out to keep that crazy bitch from slashing all your tires.
If the girl is throwing it out and the guy initiated the breakup then it’s just a deparate attempt to keep the guy on the line long enough to manipulate him into coming back. Or it’s to keep him from suspecting that she’s about to slash his tires.
Keeping them around as friends makes it so much worse when they figure out that you gave them the herpes, got them pregnant and the baby has down syndrome or that you slept with their sister.
Hey man, my consolations.
Everyone here is good with chicks, I’m happy I found another loser.
Here, sit on the bench with me…
[QUOTE=The Question;2704538]This seems un-fucking-believable. I don’t think this is enough, but I really wouldn’t know. My attention span is like 5 minutes. After that, I have to think about hentai or some bullshit. Sometimes I actually zone the fuck out with an interested look on my face while she tells me about how someone pissed her off at work or some other boring shit I’m not even minimally interested in.[/QUOTE]
You got to Zen that shit, bro. Work on your focus, not just in this area of life, but in all areas.
Besides, if you can give yourself to her completely for 30 mins…imagine how much focus you’ll have for your hentai later.
Really Q-dot?
Really?
I come back from a long hiatus, and you’re a huge gaping vagina now? Its like you left, and I had no game. Now I come back, and you have no game.
That’s sad. Almost as sad as your striking game.
[QUOTE=Bodhi108;2705259]Nah, bro. You’re completely missing the point.
It’s not about a transaction. It’s about recognizing one of the things that your woman needs in order to feel safe, satisfied, and emotionally fulfilled in a relationship. I’m not talking about doing the laundry and taking out the trash. Of course you need to be doing that shit. You need to be doing that shit when you are a single man. That’s a part of being an adult man and if you’re not doing that, break up with your woman and spend some crucial time working on yourself, because you’re being a fucking boyman and not an adult.
Focused attention comes on top of those things. It’s about genuinely listening to your lover, whatever it is she wants to say to you, whether it’s about her day at work, her mother, or her girlfriends. If you can’t give it to her the moment she wants it, that’s fine, but let her know that you need to finish whatever your work is and you promise her your undivided attention as soon as your done.
It’s not economically abusive, but it is about the give and take in a relationship. By and large, women are more sexually giving when they are emotionally fulfilled. If you love your woman, you want her to be emotionally fulfilled, more than that, you want to be the one who emotionally fulfills her.
If you have a problem with the fact that guys enjoy sex…then maybe L3 is not the forum for you.[/QUOTE]
You know, I had this methodical and awesome answer to all of these points, but then I clicked out of the box and hit backspace on accident and it destroyed what I had written.
So, in shittier form:
I agree (mostly) with you. The economic abuse was more a caveat about the line of thought relating to regarding a woman’s needs as being something to only be fulfilled for sex. I’m not saying that was where you were coming from, but it could be misinterpreted as such.
I just think how much attention a girl needs to be happy is not so finite to say 30 minutes. Now some women that’s probably true for, but I think there are a lot of variables involved in that. And the more complex an interpersonal relationship becomes, the more that number increases.
I have absolutely no problem with guys wanting sex. It’s an instinctual urge. I just think dudes need to keep that shit in check, IMO (not removing myself from that demographic). Also, I don’t think that sex should be the primary motivating factor in fulfilling a girl’s emotional needs (also IMO). If you want sex, there are women out there who give it up without any of the other shit involved.
If you love someone, that should be the reason you are doing it. Not sex, which is fleeting in the grand scheme of life. And I just pose a question here: What will motivate you to fulfill her needs when she is no longer sexually attractive to you?
I’m not talking about giving her your attention…I am talking about giving her your complete, undivided, and total attention. Not just being there with her while she cooks dinner, or while she watches TV, or while you guys are hanging out, but actually shutting off every outside stimulus and listening to her.
As for everything else, love is sex, separating the two in the mind results in all sorts of issues. You can have sex without love, certainly, but if you have a separate “sex life” with your woman apart from your romancing of her…then your mindset is all kinds of fucked up. Integrate that shit.