So a few months back met this chick that I seem to like for no reasons. We went on a few dates from time to time and every date we went on I just feel mad nervous(no idea why) Last Valentine’s Day we went for dinner and a walk but that is about it… Last Saturday she asked me “how come you seem so stiff around me, I heard my friend said you are normally pretty social.”
Well the point is that I often hang out with girls and have no problem flirting or touching them. This time around though, I can’t even talk without stuttering and every time she gets close I tend to move away…
Just wondering does anyone know why that is happening? Seems pretty weird to me.
I’d guess you’re worried about being accepted rather than being yourself without fear of the potential for rejection.
I goofy exercise to get over it would be to role play with someone. Do what you want and have the friend react in the worst way you can imagine and then think about what that would mean to you. Chances are in your favor that you’re not going to die.
The bigger issue, I’d bet, is that you don’t date enough. You’re so worked up over one, you obviously don’t understand that in the time spent stressing on one date with this person, you could chat up five women.
Don’t put women on pedestals. They know they don’t belong there and when you pressure them to pretend to be, that’s when your real problems start.