[QUOTE=BackFistMonkey;2973943]Not when age “mellows” you out.[/QUOTE]
I was projecting myself back to be a young man of Rayce’s age.
Just do what I did and be in shape and moderately attractive while hiding your lack of social skills behind a “dark and brooding” persona while in social situations. Chicks did darck and brooding for some reason. I blame Supernatural.
Why are you asking for dating advice on a martial arts forum?
Why does a martial arts forum have a section for dating advice?
Why is this god-forsaken internet pustule still extant?
[QUOTE=TheMightyMcClaw;2973956]
Why is this god-forsaken internet pustule still extant?[/QUOTE]
To give you a platform for your silly virtue signalling?
[QUOTE=Raycetpfl;2973926]Yeah I married a Jiu-Jitsu student. Apparently I am a sexual predator according to the dumbass that wrote that bullshido article on Facebook.[/QUOTE]
which always confused me. I would have thought getting between the legs of a jujitsu girl would have meant they pulled guard and choked you out?
Oh now I see the appeal
[QUOTE=TheMightyMcClaw;2973956]Why are you asking for dating advice on a martial arts forum?
Why does a martial arts forum have a section for dating advice?
Why is this god-forsaken internet pustule still extant?[/QUOTE]
He’s asking because I’m here and he knows I can help.
OP…I am here to help.
You’ve only received one decent response so far. Tinder. You need to be dealing with this problem online. Leverage technology.
You’re obviously an awkward little fuck. I’m sure in your head you have this vision of yourself strolling through the gym, dropping a few smooth lines to a lady - not too cheesy, though. Something that’ll make her smile. And then catching her number while she’s still grinning. You’ve probably even practiced in the mirror. You want it to work, but you know in your cowardly little heart that it’ll never work.
It won’t work. You’re going to fall on your face. It’s not going to go well. If you randomly find yourself in a nice casual discussion with a chick (unlike the last decade of your life) then sure, go ahead and take the chance to ask her out for drinks.
But let’s come back to reality here, bro. Stop pissing in the wind. You need to get on several dating sites. Tinder, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid. Whatever. Put more lines in the water.
If you’re not ugly you’ll do fine. Bitches are so easy. If you’re ugly, you’re gonna’ work, homie. That’s just how it is. But you need to increase your odds.
Spinning back kick to the liver.
Also, take her out for drinks for the first date. Somewhere chill and relaxed. Not a dump, but don’t try to impress her with the fanciest place you can find, either.
Don’t take her out for dinner on the first date. Take her to a bar. Give her an out if she wants to cut the night short. Don’t trap her at a table and force her to suffer through an hour and a half with your dumb ass when she doesn’t want to.
And NEVER take a chick on a coffee date for the first date. No. It sucks. I’ve learned my lesson on that. It ends up feeling too much like a job interview and it’s hard to escalate the conversation to something more flirty and sexual.
You should have escalated the conversation before you ever meet. You should already be sexting her and having her tell you all the filthy shit she wants to do before you ever meet. Then when you meet it’s just a formality.
You meet at a bar so she can make sure you’re not repulsive in person and then you bang her that night or the next date in the worst case scenario. You should set the stage so fucking is a foregone conclusion by the time you meet.
Whatever you do, do NOT be too fucking nice when you’re chatting to her online. Show her you can carry on a normal conversation but don’t let it go too long without the conversation getting sexual.
If you act like the nice guy, they’re going to treat you like the nice guy and nice guys always finish last. That’s the truth.
[QUOTE=Devil;2973972]OP…I am here to help.
You’ve only received one decent response so far. Tinder. You need to be dealing with this problem online. Leverage technology.
You’re obviously an awkward little fuck. I’m sure in your head you have this vision of yourself strolling through the gym, dropping a few smooth lines to a lady - not too cheesy, though. Something that’ll make her smile. And then catching her number while she’s still grinning. You’ve probably even practiced in the mirror. You want it to work, but you know in your cowardly little heart that it’ll never work.
It won’t work. You’re going to fall on your face. It’s not going to go well. If you randomly find yourself in a nice casual discussion with a chick (unlike the last decade of your life) then sure, go ahead and take the chance to ask her out for drinks.
But let’s come back to reality here, bro. Stop pissing in the wind. You need to get on several dating sites. Tinder, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid. Whatever. Put more lines in the water.
If you’re not ugly you’ll do fine. Bitches are so easy. If you’re ugly, you’re gonna’ work, homie. That’s just how it is. But you need to increase your odds.[/QUOTE]
Trust me, I dont imagine talking to people being very easy at all, probably the skillset I am first to admit being my weakest. Sandpaper is probably smoother haha.
I’m checking out okcupid atm but for some reason people on there seem to think phrases ‘unapologetic lefty’ and ‘I will piss you off with my politics’ and all that juvenile shit are going to help them find someone.
[QUOTE=Permalost;2973973]Spinning back kick to the liver.[/QUOTE]
If she gives one back shes a fucking keeper
assuming she doesnt kihap, then shes a taekwondilhole
You need to be around the women that you want to date. So basically you need to be at a crossfit box, pretty much all the time, to better the odds. Then, you need to talk to them, but not in a getting to know you way. You need to just be cool and only give off a business vibe. Chicks don’t like being pursued at gyms while they are trying to work out. Well, not the ones you are talking about. Basically you are there to get familiar with them so that you will be able to spark conversation when you see them out, which is the other reason you are there. To figure out where they hang out.
In my experience, those types of chicks like to be out doing stuff outdoors. My experience being because I married one. However, I’ve been out of the dating scene for a solid 18 years, so bare that in mind. 
But the chicks I know that are fit (healthy fit, not starved with fake boobs) like to be out hiking, kayaking, surfing, boating, camping and stuff like that.
My other experience is that everyone in your generation acts like they are mentally deficient, so eat some tide pods, snort some condoms, and try not to get butt raped out there. Good luck.
[QUOTE=Devil;2973985]Don’t blame the dating sites for hoes being dumb. That’s just killing the messenger. Hoes are dumb if you meet them on the street too. They just reveal themselves quicker online.[/QUOTE]
Not blaming, just noting that dumbasses are indeed fast to show themselves online.
[QUOTE=Diesel_tke;2973987]You need to be around the women that you want to date. So basically you need to be at a crossfit box, pretty much all the time, to better the odds. Then, you need to talk to them, but not in a getting to know you way. You need to just be cool and only give off a business vibe. Chicks don’t like being pursued at gyms while they are trying to work out. Well, not the ones you are talking about. Basically you are there to get familiar with them so that you will be able to spark conversation when you see them out, which is the other reason you are there. To figure out where they hang out.
In my experience, those types of chicks like to be out doing stuff outdoors. My experience being because I married one. However, I’ve been out of the dating scene for a solid 18 years, so bare that in mind. But the chicks I know that are fit (healthy fit, not starved with fake boobs) like to be out hiking, kayaking, surfing, boating, camping and stuff like that.
My other experience is that everyone in your generation acts like they are mentally deficient, so eat some tide pods, snort some condoms, and try not to get butt raped out there. Good luck.[/QUOTE]
Nice up-to-the-minute cultural reference there, old man…
I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while, but I like your advice. After I got divorced, I did find that the online dating sites were a good way to filter out the noise. Mature women usually have a better idea of what they want though, or at least some of them, and some of them even make sense and can have a conversation.
I never had much luck in gyms, but I did come away with a good LT GF from a yoga class (back when I was a much younger man).
[QUOTE=kimjonghng;2973995]Not blaming, just noting that dumbasses are indeed fast to show themselves online.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, it is a good way to filter out chaff and wheat on a first-pass sort of basis. Heck, I even used newspaper personals before the Internet was a thing. Now that was an interesting time, LOL !
Of course, I’m short, red-headed (back then anyway) and from Texas. So don’t feel too handicapped by your social awkwardness. You can get over that, or at least get much better, if you keep at it.
Believe me, I wasn’t always a smooth operator like Devil…
[QUOTE=Diesel_tke;2973987]You need to be around the women that you want to date. So basically you need to be at a crossfit box, pretty much all the time, to better the odds. Then, you need to talk to them, but not in a getting to know you way. You need to just be cool and only give off a business vibe. Chicks don’t like being pursued at gyms while they are trying to work out. Well, not the ones you are talking about. Basically you are there to get familiar with them so that you will be able to spark conversation when you see them out, which is the other reason you are there. To figure out where they hang out.
In my experience, those types of chicks like to be out doing stuff outdoors. My experience being because I married one. However, I’ve been out of the dating scene for a solid 18 years, so bare that in mind. But the chicks I know that are fit (healthy fit, not starved with fake boobs) like to be out hiking, kayaking, surfing, boating, camping and stuff like that.
My other experience is that everyone in your generation acts like they are mentally deficient, so eat some tide pods, snort some condoms, and try not to get butt raped out there. Good luck.[/QUOTE]
Shit has changed a lot since you dated last. The best place to pick up a chick is online. That’s even more true if you’re looking for a specific type of chick. You’re advising him to do shit the hard way.
People have this misconception that there’s nothing but trash bitches online. That’s just not true. All the chicks are online if they’re looking for a man.
The craziest bitch I’ve met since I got separated was a chick I hit on in person after being around her multiple times. The truth is you can get a better feel for people after chatting them up online than by trusting the public persona they want the world to see.
[QUOTE=BKR;2973937]Get on top, stay on top…[/QUOTE]
Go old school: Add bitchslaps.
[QUOTE=DCS;2974011]Go old school: Add bitchslaps.[/QUOTE]
I save that for BJJ training.
We don’t do it enough, IMO, but I’m only a blue belt, so what do I know ?