So last couple of weeks or so… there’s been this one girl who I see all the time at the club.
She already has a boyfriend. yet she always makes a beeline for me on the dancefloor and we have pretty incredible chemistry. she’s definitely into me. all signs are there.
I just haven’t made my move.
My dilemma is my whole personal honour code thing.
Hitting up a girl already in a relationship is morally conflicting for me.
but damn do I want her.
and then there’s the ancillary “pebbles” or things to come back and haunt me.
ie. her boyfriend and his viet/laos crew jumping me or shooting me. (in the case of this group. more likely than not.)
so far the most prudent method of action I can concieve of is keep the attraction game going until/if she leaves her boyfriend before closing.
and… i’m about to go to the club again… and not rolling deep. just ancillary “wildcards” (People who might or might not have my back in a fight.)
so who knows, if I’m stupid tonight. there will be another thread of how I got pwn3d at the club. except it’ll be 6 guys and everyone will tell me it’s my own damn fault this time.
I edited my post to come off less like a turd and generally be more useful and whatnot.
I do find shit like that to be disgusting, others might not agree. But whatever, fuck others.
But I think there is a consensus that sleeping with some girl who has a boyfriend is not worth getting shot/stabbed/jumped/raped.
I normally find it disgusting. not the first time i’ve been blatantly hit on by girls with boyfriends… this is probably the 4th or 5th. I’ll be trying to distance myself from.
being on a extended dry spell myself. this whole honour thing is feeling shitty as hell.
and it usually starts because I thought I could have friends there were girls if they were already in relationships. (trying to network to hit their single friends) and they end up wanting to find excuses to ditch thier boyfriend and go with me alone. which puts me in a very uncomfortable position if their boyfriend happens to be one of my homeboys.
ive done it before but it was a fairly unique situation. and it worked out (and still is- knock on wood)
a friend of mine is with a girl who he had a year previously fucked a few times while she was dating someone else. they stopped when she decided it was getting serious with the other guy- when they broke up my mate moved in. if that was me, i would fucking never get close to a girl who i knew was capable of cheating on someone that casually. so i see your point.
Girls play a deadly game sometimes and you are already in a tough situation. If you brush her off too harsh you might end up getting jumped anyway. Really just about the only way you can get away with doing this is to be a bigger badass than the bf and have more backup and being ready to take it to the next level. But since you posted about this here, Im guessing you’re not gangsta like that. It’s ok. Otherwise, any contact you make with her is just exposing you to future conflict if/when things go sour.
And people are not blind. If she’s making a beeline for you at the club every time you can be damn sure that some of his homies have already noticed.
Have you tried asking about the boyfriend ? Maybe they’re not serious. How hot is she, most stabbing victims don’t die. Oh, and keep in mind that chics dig scars and only you know how you got it…You follow me?