wasn’t Richard Wagner a romantic? and didn’t Hitler dig it?
People ain’t just black and white, people have personalities and they come in shades of grey. I have a lot of grey but I only allow people to see one end of the spectrum or the other.
I am a romantic, but usually I don’t go all out and show it. When I am not comfortable with somebody or the situation I am all rational, emotions packed aside, helps me not to get angry or worse.
I don’t get close with a lot of people, that ain’t me. There are a lot of people I know but there are only a hand full, if at all, that “know me”. Different people know different pieces of me, I like to keep things separated (i.e. I have friends at my club, I have friends at Uni and some friends from back in school. But they don’t know each other, I don’t “mix” them). Maybe I just have untreated multiple personality disorder or some, who knows.
I have a lot of passion and emotions but I like to channel them through writing lyrics, poems, stories, taking photos, listen to music. I have tones of that stuff.
Again, I don’t show those things I create while channelling to a lot of people but if I do it tends to move them, make them look at me different after that. If I do so, I don’t do that to get anything out of it, I do it because I feel like it.
Only on a few occasions I let my emotions out, not holding back, not channelling them, not using some sort of “art” to express them. Romantics is something I appreciate to experience on my own, or in company with a girl I can be my self with.
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I do. I don’t feel awkward discussing it. Except when the guys at my gym are talking about fucking random chicks. I once said something like “yo, I don’t necessarily do shit like that, I mean, what’s the point of fucking some girl you’re never going to see again?”. The response is usually something like “dude, you are definitely gay”.
At this point, I exit stage left, because that is the wrong place to have that kind of discussion.
How do you hide your Romantic nature?
It hides itself. In particular because I don’t know how to be romantic. And I don’t give afuck about romance. Of course I must point out that yearning for a fulfulling relationship is not the same as being romantic.
Fuck long walks on the beach. Fuck flowers. Fuck chocolates and candy. If you express how much you care about someone using highly generic gestures, and they actually appreciate that shit like nothing else, one or both of you is one or more of the following:
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hollow
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Unable to think for yourself
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both
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They actually like that shit because they like it and for no other reason.
Number 4. is quite rare, however.
How do you express it?
By appreciating the unique things about the person. For example, if she is really into theatre, I will develop enough of an interest to surprise her with tickets to some play she really wants to see. And actually go to it. As much as that might suck for me.
Is it part of who you are or just a means to an end?
What end? There is no end.
Why are you so uncomfortable and sometimes downright aggresive about protecting the secret of your inner cutie?
I honestly don’t give a fuck what people think. People can think whatever the fuck they want. So no, I’m not uncomfortable or aggressive. I also don’t have much of an inner cutie. Or my inner cutie has some big/sharp motherfucking teeth. Like the gremlin thing you feed after midnight and it turns into a monster … or something.
Your answers will benefit womankind. Discretion assured. Okay, maybe not.
How so? Because women will understand how to appreciate romance in guys?
Yo, if you want people to romance you, I think asking them to might be the way to go. Then let creativity rule …
Only you could post this thread Lil… :laughing6
It’s been a while since I had a fulfilling relationship, can’t say I’ve ever had a problem in discussing it. It’s usually the case i end up in an unfullfilling one however…
I only hide any romantic leanings to the degree, that i’m paranoid of coming across as creepy. So i have tendency to over do it, either ‘to romantic’ or ‘not romantic enough’. With my last serious relationship, I managed to get the balance right and had a successfull expression of romanticism…:XXjester:
For me romance is in the details, the little things. Just saying ‘you’re beautiful’ rather than ‘you’re hot’. Buying her flowers ‘just because’, When you’ve both had a long and shitty day and you take the time to run her (or you both) a bath. Rubbing her feet, even though you’re not mad keen on the idea!
Stuff like that.
Have a bunny… :bunny:
I send dirty text messages.
I’m so hot for you right now.
I don’t feel akward about it. I enjoy fulfilling relationships. They don’t always fit into my life though. Additionally, I have had the poor luck of getting into relationships with controlling, possessive, needy women because I turn on the charm (and emotional commitment) to early.
How do you hide your Romantic nature?
I don’t get all lovey dovey with a chick until I’m emotionally commited to her. I tend to suspend that emotional commitment for quite some time now. I learned that the hard way.
How do you express it?
It comes naturally and it depends on the girl and the situation, but as a general guideline, I try to do something special/unique when I get together with a girl. I also just tend to say what I think and do what I feel like doing at any given time, and when I’m with a girl I’m really into that generally entails contact (I like to touch and be touched) and compliments.
Is it part of who you are or just a means to an end?
It’s part of who I am, but whenever I’m all romantical, it always pays back in spades, which doesn’t tend to deter me from continuing the behavior.
Why are you so uncomfortable and sometimes downright aggresive about protecting the secret of your inner cutie?
I’m not, but being romantic with a girl entails emotional commitment. If one is in the habit of giving up the emotional commitment early on, one is more likely to get into relationships with needy, controlling women, and nothing puts a black hearted choke hold on ones romantic nature like a controlling woman who manipulates that shit to her own benefit.
Thus, I tend to suspend the emotional commitment and the romanticness till later due to my previous experience, and I have to be completely honest. It hasn’t worked out for me very well so far.
I was like that (and still am in a lot of cases) until I did ecstacy. It re-wired my brain to make friends and feel love more easily and quickly. I recommend doing it once for that reason. Just not in connection with any sort of dancing or techno faggotry. More like around friends in a calm setting.
There is little romance in this thread.
I thought I was a romantic once, but then I remembered I’m a hollow, emotionally cauterised shell of a man with all the passion of an apathetic rock.
Well, I’ve gotten less romantic over the years. I think time mellows out the peaks and valleys that we think are so crucial to life when we’re young. Nowadays, it’s more about the day to day actions-especially since I’m married and all. It can be hard to feel fufilled but that’s becasue being a committed couple has many challenges.
I generally hide my romantic nature because I’m an embarrassing twat if I get started…
I like expressing it with actions: wake up early and make breakfast, do something around the house I normally wouldn’t do like arrange flowers, put on a nice little outfit (j/k).
Love is like a garden and both people have to cultivate it together, I protect myself by backing out of this sort of discussion rather quickly…Like right NOW.
I generally have a real hard time taking myself seriously, like is this a e-party here? Will you be my Kelly Clarkson if I’ll be your Techno Viking?
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:sex:
I used to have some semblance of a romantic side, but three years of being surrounded by girls who are either drug addicts, whores, fundies, or some inexplicable combination of all three has caused me to bury that side under a mountain of cynicsm and bitterness.
Things get better in the real world, or so I’m told.
That sounds awesome! Where were you?
You’re in college?
Yep, in a small baptist college north of asheville.
Yeah, I hated that shit about college too.
How long have you been out of school? Is it really the promised land I’ve been told about?
And all is not lost, I’m going to Argentina from July to Christmas, so hopefully things will be better there. What kills me at my current school is that it’s a small campus and has about 900 students, so unless you spend all your time in your room, you’re forced to socialize with the people you hate.
I love this shit in college. Sadly, I’m graduating now… UGH
Hear about the drug bust at my university? TIme to fill the void in many different ways! kidding.
Life is so much easier not worrying about romance.