Calling all Romantics

BS’ers, which of your number will step forward and declare your status as a Romantic? Do you yearn for a fulfilling relationship yet feel awkward discussing it? :love2:

How do you hide your Romantic nature?

How do you express it?

Is it part of who you are or just a means to an end?

Why are you so uncomfortable and sometimes downright aggresive about protecting the secret of your inner cutie?

Your answers will benefit womankind. Discretion assured. Okay, maybe not.

Ironically, this is the gayest thread ever.

Lets keep this on topic Raz. I see you’re a little scared of being labelled a Romantic, however I will remind you that a Romantic nature can exist beside a Manly one.

Answer one of the questions at least (or suffer the consequences).

Adam gives his seal of approval.

I r very touchy feely lovey with the HappyOldLady. It’s why she is happy and I r still a guy…

Search function noob.

I like long walks on the beach, dinner by candle light and writing poems.

Fair enough, I will.

I express it by going to a girl’s house dressed as the burger king and fucking her in the ass. Bitchs love shit like that.

I for one, am a shameless romantic. I don’t hide it.

I express it by making a big effort to make special occasions memorable. Birthdays, Valentine’s, Christmas, Anniversary, etc, all invariably result in me making an effort to make my future wife happy. I also always listen to what she has to say. I may or may not agree with what she says, but I always take the time to listen and respond honestly.

I don’t think being romantic requires a great deal of expense, necessarily, I try to be thoughtful and show that I pay attention to the things she wants. I’m also not afraid to tell her I love her (although sometimes it is a bit embarrassing when I’m on the phone to her before or after a class, and I say “I love you” while surrounded by training buddies who invariably mock me and make kissy-kissy sounds when that happens).

I’m not particularly uncomfortable or aggressive about my softer side. I’m generally pretty softly spoken, and don’t behave aggresively as a rule. It also helps that (with the exception of the guys I train with), my fiancee and I share a social circle.

An older friend at Judo once gave me some good advice that I repeat whenever anyone gives me flak about being “whipped” or a wuss - " Happy wife = happy life".

Also, I don’t really think of myself as being whipped, as my partner is supportive, and doesn’t expect me to give anything up or make sacrifices for her. She also makes a big effort to make me happy, and as long as it’s a mutual effort, everybody wins in my opinion.

Nice, mature response Deadmeat. You’ll go far, unlike Raz.

  1. I hide behind a tree.

  2. express what.

  3. I’ll give you and end.

  4. If by inner cutie you mean that bulge in my pants it’s called a wallet.

applauds Well done Omega Bear, that’s a great start!!!

As to your confusion regarding Question 2:

  1. How do you express it? ‘It’ being ‘your Romantic nature’.

I came home from work today with a cake for my wife. It’s mothers day, so I wrote “Hot Mama!” on it with tube frosting.

BS’ers, which of your number will step forward and declare your status as a Romantic?

I can’t honestly say I think I am, but I’ve been told I am.

Do you yearn for a fulfilling relationship yet feel awkward discussing it?

No.

How do you hide your Romantic nature?

I don’t.

How do you express it?

With words. Sometimes with actions. The other day, me and my girlfriend were taking a long walk at the beach when we stopped to sit on a log and look out over the water. It was a beautiful moment, everything was still and silent…except that I had pretty bad gas that day. It started out silent, but then it got loud, so the smell hit her at about the same time as the sound did. She punched me and ran away sqauwking “You ALWAYS ruin the PERFECT MOMENT…ASSHOOOLE!” So as I laughed loud and long, I ran up behind her and slapped her ass, then ran ahead until she caught up, whirled around, grabbed her by the head and kissed her on the mouth…what can I say? It shut her up…

Is it part of who you are or just a means to an end?

Both.

Why are you so uncomfortable and sometimes downright aggresive about protecting the secret of your inner cutie?

I’m not. My friends bug me, but I don’t care. Sometimes I just tell them they’re bitter losers and to fuck off.

Here’s the problem. I’m completely devoid of knowing how to love or loving someone. However, being that I’m a very astute individual, I have been able to replicate this to an extent, however since it lacks the one single element of my thought and passion into it, it loses that special luster.

For example, if you haven’t noticed the yearly Christmas/Valentine’s day threads I make wherein I present gifts that other Bullshidoka can copy/paste into their own lives wherein they can benefit from my years of research and development in creating these very “romantic” things.

I’m currently chasing a girl and she may quite possible teach me how to stop being a heartless robot, and I dare say it, I think I love her. I don’t know if that is real or not, but I really have never felt these feelings of care and wanting to protect and nurture something before, so I guess by all accordance of definition, I love her.

I don’t know if this is romantic or if it’s sadistic.

I’m going opposite of Sirc.

Just once did see a girl where I felt like I had the whole world and beyond and everything I could ever hope for, but inside me I knew it was too unreal and it was going to be short lived.

The older I get the more I see it as a game of ego and attraction to get primary: sex secondary: companionship. Not that I’m old at all.

I haven’t actively identified myself as such type or showen it off to most people since I got out of high school but I do have (or at least used to have) a more sensual side, poetry with very good reviews, music talents, old dreams of becoming an artist… Now I’m graduating with a finance degree about to start a law education. Where did I go wrong? LOL

I’m looking back on the things I’ve typed and I’ve realized Lily has asked the totally right questions. Good job! I didn’t even think I was answering them until I read your Q’s.

I don’t know if I really hide it though. I don’t talk about it but I’m sure someone listening can pick it out.

Is it part of who you are or just a means to an end?
Not sure what this question is asking. Are you asking if ‘hiding it’ is a part of me/means or if the ‘inner cutie’ you speak of is such?

I am not uncomfortable about protecting this ‘secret’. I have no problem exposing some parts of it. The intention is mostly to swoon, but sometimes its to let a woman know that I’m revealing some things about myself that most others don’t know. However, to be honest that doesn’t mean that much to me as to it may mean to some women. I’m learning that I can always find another one.

Romantic thoughts and imaginations are becoming more and more rare for me. I don’t mind. However, I guess if I ever had to become a romantic novelist or a play writer that would suck for me.

The above sums up how I feel about romance and women right now. However, Miss Amazing I mentioned above is coming to visit in a few months. I know somewhere inside I am deathly afraid of re-connecting with her, because I don’t want to give up or compromise any of my dreams and ambitions. I think the universal answer to your question is somewhere along those lines…

Now I have a question for you. What is the event and thought in YOUR life recently that has compelled you to start this thread?

Why the fuck am I talking about feelings and emotions on a martial arts forum? Why am I talking about it at all? Fight fight kill kill rwwaarr

I think you’d have to be pretty deluded to find it emasculating to admit to a woman that you love her. I’m pretty sure that heterosexual relationships with women are pretty manly.

I’m a romantic in the sense that I loved my last serious girlfriend, and I expressed it pretty regularly. In retrospect she wasn’t the most sane of partners, and some of the romanticism came out of her demands rather than my natural inclination. For example, I called her every day. Sometimes twice. Why? Because she’d get pretty goddamn upset if I didn’t. Really upset. Like, “You forgot me” upset.

That said I did go out of my way to do nice things for her and generally look after her. I’m not an asshole, I repay the kindness; If you’re good to me, I’ll be good to you.

The sad thing is of course she fucked some asshole behind me back, then dumped my ass. Will that teach me not to be nice? No, no it probably won’t.

a mate of mine told me that he got in shit because while he was away he didnt let his girlfriend know he missed her often enough. when i informed my girl of this she looked puzzled and said “whats her problem? she should know he misses her. what a retarded thing to say to someone, i know when you go away you miss me, and not because you send me retarded txts when youre drunk”

i think telling a girl you love her and shit all the time is just creepy. be more original. i used the line “im happy all day because you are the first thing i think of in the morning and the last thing i think of at night” and she turned to putty. was great.

>>> How do you hide your Romantic nature?

I don’t. I really don’t change my ways whether I’m single, pursuing a girl, or while being with someone in a relationship. I just try to be a gent, I pay attention to details (without turning into a doormat) and that’s about it.

>>> How do you express it?

I’m not sure. I’ve never separated romanticism with attraction. I simply let someone know that I’m attracted to her (implicitly or explicitly) and I let the chips fall where they may. Then, depending on much attention I get, I reciprocate. Again, small details, cooking for her, a flower, dinner with candles (women like that shit).

Again, it’s all in paying attention to details, but most important of all, when I do something for someone, it’s because it gives me pleasure in doing so (not because I’m trying to win for her approval or something like that.)

>>> Is it part of who you are or just a means to an end?

Part of me. Can’t deny, that it also becomes a means to an end. A person project romanticism towards someone he feels attracted to. It doesn’t occur in vacuum.

And if that person goes out of his way to use it as means towards an end (that is, he puts excessive energy and time into it to his own detriment), then he’s faking it, or he’s a doormat begin for some woman to approve him.

>>> Why are you so uncomfortable and sometimes downright aggresive about protecting the secret of your inner cutie?

Nope. That doesn’t apply to me.

A person needs to be comfortable with himself. Confidence without being arrogant or creepy is the key. When a man enjoys the company of a woman and naturally acts in a corteous way, paying attention to details, that becomes naturally romantic.

Small things go a long way. “I like your earrings”, “that dress looks nice on you”, an spontaneous kiss or a hug, helping her with things that need to be done at home, making her feel appreciated, that’s true romanticism. But it has to be genuine.

That is, romanticism is about appreciation, about appreciation of women when you are single, and of a woman in particular when you are in a relationship. It has to be genuine and explicit. It has to be natural, it cannot be forced, and it certainly is not the fake image of prince charming climing walls or stuff like that.

It’s about discrete gestures of genuine appreciation without turning into a doormat.

I’m a highly functional sociopath, so no. I know how to fake what other people see as romance, but I generally don’t feel it. Usually, either women in my life figure this out within 6 months, or I get bored of pretending and ditch them. This probably explains why my love life is so successful.

I’m completely serious. Ask Sirc.

I am honestly impressed that Lily got some honest answers in the internet equivalent of a boy’s locker room, and from some of the site’s bad boys no less.

I won’t be divulging any of my romantic secrets. Suffice to say when I snap my fingers my wife falls down on the floor in an orgasmic fit.

Unfortunately, because the cat was there during the conditioning process, she does too.