...but it sure helps.

My mom threw a Christmas party this past Saturday and told me I could invite a few friends. Deciding who could come wasn’t too hard; I only have three friends. The real question was whether I’d invite them at all. My mom is notoriously bitchy and distrusting of anyone I bring over, and while she’d never come out and say it, universally hates my friends. This may not have become such a problem if I ever shared details of my personal life with her, but I quickly found that any such attempt at a heart-to-heart would quickly devolve into stock platitudes one can only say with a straight face after years of dedicated Oprah and Marth Stewart Living viewership. To wit: When I first told my mom that I had gotten drunk several times over the course of my world trip and had found it to be an incredible disappointment, she paused thoughtfully and said “You Don’t Need Alcohol To Have A Good Time”.

{She also burst into my room late at night one evening to tell me she had this great idea to sell dog biscuits online, in spite of the fact that she had no college education, no business education, could barely navigate the Internet, and a stupid name (“Pawfect Cookies”). She told me she’d give a portion of the profits (here I buried my hands in my face) to animal shelters, and that the tagline would be “They’re DOG-GONE delicious!”. }

Anyway.

I called up my friends and had them come over. In the interest of anonymity I’ve giving them the same psuedonyms I gave my mom, after she hilariously butchered my first friend’s name: Chad, Jeff, and Christina. Chad and Jeff were the gentlemen I spent a delightfully sober evening with a few weeks back, Christina was the girl I asked out later in the thread. (UPDATE: She shot me down, but found my spreadsheet hilarious and asked to keep it, noting that my Excel skills were indeed very impressive).

Chad is 19. Jeff is 17. I’m 20. Christina is 24 next week. This meant that after Christina ran to the liquor store and “hooked us up”, we were pretty much consigned to one of my bedrooms, which was fine since we didn’t have any plans more elaborate than drinking and watching movies.

Or so I thought.

Around 2 AM, long after the other guests had left I went downstairs to get some food and upon returning to my room found my friends playing Spin the Bottle. They tried to get me to join in, but I refused, saying there’s no way in Hell I’m going to start kissing guys before I start kissing girls. I also pointed out that with a 2:1 ratio of men to ladies, the odds were stacked against them as is, and would get worse if I jumped in. Then Christina said I could kiss her on the lips and I was all HOT DOG because yes, my dearest Internet friends, I am indeed a terrible, lonely 14 year old boy. My friends could sense my discomfort about kissing guys, and even though in my social circle being perceived as a homophobe is worse than being perceived as gay, they still let me get away with kissing their shirtsleeves.

So while I was seeing the most action I’d seen in six years, I also felt very, very stupid, and joked that maybe we should instead play Truth or Dare or Seven Minutes in Heaven. Chad laughed and agreed. “Okay, you’re given one round of Seven Minutes in Heaven you can use on whoever you want.”

Suddenly the stakes were up. We had no idea how we were going to do this, but everyone knew that I liked Christina and even though there was one girl to three guys, everyone knew where this was going. We were on a collision course with clumsy inevitability.

My turn rolled around and I spun Christina. I didn’t have to say anything. She got up and we walked to my other bedroom. I sat beside her on the bed. She looked like she expected me to pounce on her any second. I pulled out my art history book I have onhand for such occasions. and began to read aloud. Now she was nervous and utterly baffled.

“Relax,” I told her. “I’m not going to try anything.”

Given that she turned me down last week, I thought she’d ease up, but now she just looked nervous and even more confused.

“Why not?”
“Because it wouldn’t be right and I know you don’t want to do this.”
“…but I’m a drunk girl alone in your bedroom.”
“Right, and I think it’s wrong to molest drunk girls.”
“You know I probably wouldn’t remember it if you did?”
“Yeah, but that wouldn’t make it right.”

She looked at me for maybe a minute.

“You’re so weird.”

And then it hit me. The Saw-style flashback montage. In 30 seconds I saw the previous six minutes fly by, saw mutual friends tell me how much alcohol Christina could consume, saw how little she’d had that night, saw a giant neon sign flashing above my head: SHE’S NOT THAT DRUNK. And just as the sign exploded in a shower of sparks and Boogie Nights references, Chad came in.

“You don’t think I’ll do it?”

Chad and I hated M:iIII, but loved Phillip Seymour Hoffman.

The rest of the night was pretty uneventful. Everyone was too drunk to drive so I made accomodations for them in my rooms. I slept in the same room as Christina, who kept saying how bad she felt that I was sleeping on the floor. I knew not to push my luck.

The next morning my mom was appalled to find there were teenagers sleeping in her house(!!!), so she kicked Jeff and Chad out at 11 AM. Christina had already left for work by 9, which was for the best since my mom is positive I had sex with her and has only spoken to me in angry, terse non-sequiters since.

“There’s no such thing as fat-free cheese.”

“How many lightbulbs do you have?”

“Did you ever pay back Grandma?”

And so on.

As for me, I learned my lesson: if a girl’s coherent enough to argue you’re not date-raping her, it’s not date rape. And move out. Seriously dude. You’re mom’s a bitch.

I read all that.

I have no comment, just thought you’d like to know your effort wasn’t wasted.

edit:

wtf?

Seriously. You are quiet a trooper.

Boyd,

I will gladly pay for your hooker.

Seriously.

Dude…wow.

Quite. Also, I know.

so basically, boyd is a loser who still lives with his mum and hangs around with 17 year olds? and is too retarded to move in on a chick who is gagging for it?

ok.

For some reason, being an ex coke head doesn’t seem too bad anymore…

At least I don’t live in new Zealand.

Damnit man. I’m the typo king today.

at least i get some

game set and match bitch

Normally I’d try harder, but since you went for the easiest possible comeback, I will too:

At least I don’t have to fuck a sheep.

Dear Boyd, you need to take something to unclench your turns lumps of coal into diamonds sphincter. Drugs, alcohol, or self-abusing transvestite meth addled vipers, whatever gets the job done. How do I know this? I used to be just like you. I held myself to an impossibly high standard all throughout my youth. I always asked permission before I kissed a girl, I never ever did anything inappropriate with women or sexually confused reptiles.

What did all this sterling behavior get me? It damn sure didn’t get me any tail, that’s for sure. I’ll tell you a little secret, women don’t want Sir fucking Gawain. They prefer the dashing rogue.

Stop trying to be a knight. Get the fuck over yourself. I challenge you to do something you would never normally do, like be a dick to your ladyfriend, try a non-addictive drug or better yet find a skank and fuck her till she can’t walk. Of course you probably won’t have all that raw creative power you do now because your eyes will no longer be floating on backed up jizz, but the alternative is turning into something like the Zodiac killer.

Next time you have the opportunity, grab your ladyfriend and kiss her authoritatively. Don’t smash her lips like that crap in the movies though. They don’t like that shit either. After you kiss her, walk away without saying anything. I shit you not when I say women are most attracted to men they can’t figure out. Keep them confused and off-balance and they’ll follow you around like a lost puppy. If you find one worth keeping, knock all that shit off after six months and just be yourself. With any luck, you could be well on your way to being a man-whore in six months.

p.s. You’re a huge dork.

Sheep count?

Actually, you can ask to kiss a girl if you phrase it right.
After you have established some rapport, tell her you have a really important question.
Ask “Do you want to kiss me?”
You have three answers.

  1. Yes. Then kiss her. I usually hit that about 10% of the time.
  2. No. Haven’t got that a lot. The correct response is “Hey, hold on, I didn’t say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind.”
  3. Maybe or I don’t know. Most common. I say “Lets find out” and move in and kiss them.

The appeal of Boyd is that many of us were quite similar (generally most of those I consider “good” posters), and despite good and bad advice everyone still struggles through things on their own, considering themselves unique in there perspectives and concerns.

For example: I remember a similar mental conversation (I at least had the courtesy to internalize the whole process) concerning a young lady once when I realized that I in fact was the far more intoxicated one, and if she wasn’t going to be concerned about “taking advantage” of me the reverse was probably moot. The difference though is that Boyd could tell the story better and with more alliteration. Alliteration makes everything better.

This pretty much describes me up until the age of 18. 19, really.

You know, in my defense I asked this girl out last week and she said no. I should be alotted some leeway for automatically assuming she was an innocent bystander caught in an awkward situation, and that I actually was doing the right thing.

Of course, I realize now how badly I fucked up Saturday, and have since learned the error of my ways. Luckily I still have a chance for redemption. My birthday’s in a few weeks and we’ve made plans to go out and get hammered together. In all likelyhood I’ll take my car to her place and we’ll take a cab back. If I can’t rape her then, then I can’t rape anyone.

Actually, what does it mean when a girl says no to dating you and yes to drunken make-out sessions? Considering that I’m SUPER UGLY

Also, what does it mean when a girl won’t go out with you, but suggests you tell your friends you’re going out anyway, and after her drunken advances are spurned, says “Be sure to tell them we made out this whole time”?